Has he stolen your heart, and now you want to make him feel that you truly love him?  You know he cares too, but you don’t want to rush the words of love?  Are you ready to create that true bond of love and take your relationship to the next level?  It’s a pivotal time, and the moves you make now might well make or break the whole deal.  Follow these tips and get it right the first time, because once the wine has turned to vinegar, there’s no bringing it back.

 

Remain an Independent Woman

 

This is not as contradictory as it may sound.  You love him, but now is not the time to need him.  You want him to love you, not to feel like he has to take care of you and all of your emotional and material needs.  If you let him believe that you will melt into a pool of jelly and tears without him, then your power and mystique are gone.  Men want to get their candy from a sexy, confident, challenging woman, not from a needy loser.  It’s a fine line at this point.

 

You should continue to have and run your own life, have events that don’t include him, and have dates with him that don’t end up in bed.  Give him your touch, your scent, your smile, and your gaze, if you want to make him feel you truly love him.  But dole it out in teaspoons, not in the heaping helpings of an all-you-can-eat buffet.  Make a few clean physical breaks during your date, like rounds in a boxing match, to let him feel the coolness of reality without your tender warmth, and to long for your return.  If you’re always there, he will never feel his need for you.  Be a complete woman all by yourself, and he will be happy to be included in parts of your amazing life.

 

Walk Before You Run

 

As a woman, you really do have the ability to understand the unspoken signals that your man is giving out.  Try to follow the pace that he sets.  When things stall for too long as he gets comfortable with the present situation, then take the lead with a gentle nudge.  If it’s a big step, like meeting your family or his family that you want to accomplish, then make it hypothetical and at least a few weeks into the future.

 

“I think my Mom would really like you.  We should have lunch with her next month sometime, or maybe we could just say hello to her at work next time we’re downtown.”  Something brief and non-threatening is best.  And then don’t push it.  Bring it up again next week with something a little more concrete.  “You have a dentist appointment next week just a mile from Mom’s work.  Can we have a cup of coffee with her afterwards?  It would mean a lot to her, and to me.”  Your intuition will tell you if he’s just nervous about it, or if he really doesn’t want to make that move yet.

 

Don’t Rush the Words

 

The way to make him feel you truly love him is with your actions, your smiles, your tenderness, your understanding – anything he can pick up with his senses and his mind.  Let your body and your actions do the talking about your feelings.  The words will come when he can control his natural fear of commitment long enough to understand that your love and his is not a trap, but a wonderful, exciting adventure.