For instance, relationships starting out from the Internet. Is it a more effective way to fall in love as one tends to or has more chances to understand the other person? Well there are fake guys and girls everywhere. Real world doesn’t necessarily guarantee one from being prevented from meeting a fake person. If you are gullible, you’re gonna be trapped whether it’s online or not.
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What do you say about people falling in love without physically meeting each other?
Friday, July 23rd, 2010Yes another love question -So I’m 16 and this time last year I was having a conversation with my mom telling
Friday, April 30th, 2010her high school relationships are so overrated and the teens in the realtionships get too into it and think they love the other and such. I mean really you have your whole life ahead of you and you want to find your life long partner in high school?! HA! Well a month later I got a boyfriend big whoop I though just someone to call mine do things with no biggie.. Well here we are 11 months and I take back everything I said.. Or I dont..My relationship has gone steadily slow and it was on our 10months ann. He told me he loved me and it took me a couple weeks to say it back. And I think I actually meant it and I feel so stupid for doing exactly what I was agaist just last year. Sometimes my boyfriend and I talk about marriage and kids but also keep in mind alot can change with time, but I truely think we can make it. Have I just fallen into the teen love trap or could this be it. I’m sure I have the right perspective of life and I know whats out there but I think Im content with what I got
In Pursuit of Better Relationships?
Sunday, March 21st, 2010
A relationship is usually a fine kettle of fish. It requires kid gloves to handle it. A relationship between a man and a woman requires all the available resources to make it to the list of successful relationships. To make a better relationship, a lot of spices plus other additives are added to the union. Relationship is an institution that has many related departments that call for your undivided attention. Careful and articulate co-ordination of all departments is necessary to ensure this institution does not experience hitches. It requires a person to go that extra mile with personal sacrifices on the way. Love relationships are the best adopted to absorb the constant shocks of life. There are many surprises in store for any relationship. Unpreparedness and lack of flexibility can throw a once thriving relationship off-balance
Relationships are built on mutual trust. It is a two way traffic with trappings of care and love. Affection is given and reciprocated in equal measure. It is an interaction between peers and no one is a subject of the other. It is the key to successful relationships. Even love relationships have their foundations built on this concept. Lack of these ingredients in a relationship makes everything almost unworkable. This is a union that is either on a very rocky stretch or one that is surely headed for doom. A separation is most imminent if the arrangement is not as it ought to be naturally. A lot of rehabilitation and renovation is required to mend such a union and make it a better relationship. Mutual trust is the password that opens all the doors to a better and more fulfilling relationship.
If you are person in pursuit of a better relationship, ensure that the lines of communication between you and your partner are always open. Create a conducive atmosphere where any topic under the sun can be discussed between the two of you. Any pertinent issue facing the relationship should be tabled and laid bare as a subject of debate. Love relationships do not shy away from real issues, they tackle them. Leave no stone unturned in the quest for successful relationships. When a couple in a relationship fail to speak out on the discontent and dissatisfaction they have in their hearts, tension starts building up. This transforms into pressure that is bottled up with no vent to diffuse through. This is time bomb in the offing. It explodes with devastating effects to the union.
If you truly love your partner, let it be an open secret, let it be known. There are many ways to say “i love you”. Different ways to express the abundance of your heart. Actions have been known to speak louder than words. In love relationships, it is the small things that matter. Love should speak through your actions. Every little thing that you do should be a manifestation of your love. Successful relationships are full of affectionate and passionate love themes. Surprise your partner with presents from time to time for a better relationship.
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Are You Addicted to Bad Relationships?
Monday, March 8th, 2010
Are you Addicted to Bad Relationships?
Do you often find that you involve yourself in relationships that disappoint you? Are you not getting what you need and desire from the people you choose to date? Does there always seem to be something missing? If you answered yes to one or all of those questions, you could very well be addicted to disappointing and bad relationships, setting yourself up for failure without even knowing it. There are ways you can determine whether you are addicted or not, and ways you can break the addiction and start getting what you have always wanted from a relationship.
Before we cover the symptoms of addiction, it is important that we cover the dangers of staying in a bad relationship. Since bad relationships lack what one or both partners’ need, stress becomes a regular part of your life, as well a gradual lowering of your self-esteem, which will make you unable to focus on your career and personal life with the concentration and care needed, in order for you to be happy. The constant stress will produce chemical changes in your body that drain your energy and make you more eligible for physical illnesses. Physical abuse in a relationship is obvious to cause a lot of physical harm, along with great psychological damage, but in spite of these facts, many people still choose to proceed with such relationships, finding themselves trapped and incapable of leaving. They find themselves depressed, on a search for some relief and unfortunately becoming depressed and possibly turning to drugs and alcohol.
So what are the symptoms of this addiction? Ignoring the truth would be one. If you truly know that the relationship you are in is making you unhappy but make no effort to exit from it, then you are in denial and are holding yourself hostage in a situation you do not have to be in. Making excuses for your partner’s disappointing and bad behavior will keep you trapped and is another huge symptom of bad relationship addiction, especially if the excuses you produce do not back up the facts and are unrealistic. If you do finally build up the courage to confront your partner to leave him or her but are overcome with fear and therefore back off from the confrontation, you are a high and sure victim of addiction because no matter what you attempt, you find yourself always giving in and holding on to what you know is bad for you. Suffering from both physical and mental discomfort once broken up, unless you get back together, is yet another symptom of addiction and should not be denied or ignored.
What causes addiction to bad relationships? There are several levels and everyone’s addiction is different and varies. One common reason is the feeling and belief that if you end the relationship, you will never find anyone else who could possibly be interested in you or love you. You grow so attached to your partner that you forgot your life before him or her, making you feel fearful of being on your own and taking care of yourself. Fear of criticism is another reason many people remain in bad relationships. They are afraid of what people will say, believing that ending a relationship means that they are a failure and being alone is unacceptable and terrifying. Other reasons may be financial support that you are receiving from a partner, making you feel that you should tolerate bad behavior from your lover, since they are supporting you. Having a child together can also blind you or cause you to deny a bad relationship, making you feel guilty for leaving your child’s mother or father. On a deeper level, you could be addicted to disappointing and bad relationships due to your upbringing or experiences as a child yourself. Perhaps you were not nurtured or loved enough and you now think it is normal to be neglected from love, care and understanding.
What should you do and how can you break a bad relationship addiction? Since this addiction is difficult and basically impossible for you to end on your own, counseling would be the best assistance for you. Find a counselor or service in which experts provide their services through, and take that first step in accepting the fact that you have an addiction and that you need and want help to conquer it. Start being a best friend to yourself and open the door to all the feelings you have kept locked up for so long. Stay focused and encourage yourself frequently by setting a goal, and picturing yourself away from all the disappointment and closer to all the happiness and good health you need, desire and deserve as a person. Never give up and know that you are not alone. There are people who can help you, know how to help and will help you. Mainly, keep in mind that there will always be a person who will be by your side and never leave you, always giving you the strength, love and support you need… and that person is YOU.
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Getting Love, Being Loving
Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010
Take a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love:
* Is it most important to you to get someone to love you – to get love?
* Is it more important to you to be a loving person – to give love to yourself and others?
At any moment, you have one of these two intentions, and which you choose determines your experience of love.
GETTING LOVE
Most people move into relationships to be loved, rather than to be loving. Since most people were not loved as children and their parents did not role model loving themselves, they believe that it is getting love that will make them feel the best feelings – the best about themselves.
They go about looking for someone who they feel really sees and values them rather than learning how to see and value themselves. Not valuing themselves, they believe that the only way they will feel worthy and lovable is when someone they value loves them.
The problem is that, since we come together at our common level of woundedness, the partner they pick is also looking to get love. At the beginning, they each give the other what they believe the other wants in order to get the love they are seeking. Since both are in the relationship to get love, both want control over getting that love. Eventually, both feel very disappointed that their control tactics – giving gifts, giving themselves up, giving compliments, acting superior, getting judgmental, being demanding or angry, and so on – don’t work. They either decide they chose the wrong partner and move on, or they try harder to control – convincing, explaining, debating, arguing, talking things out, and so.
But as long as they are not first giving love to themselves, they will continue to be disappointed and feel unloved.
BEING LOVING
When you learn how to take responsibility for loving yourself – for defining your own worth, taking loving care of yourself, and filling yourself with love – then you seek a relationship in order to share your love with another. You see relationships as learning opportunities to further develop your ability to love yourself and others. Relationships become opportunities to grow, play, share and love, rather than to get love, security and validation.
When your intent is to be loving, you don’t see relationships as having to meet your needs. Love, real love, doesn’t need anything from the other person. Real love is giving caring, compassion, and understanding for the joy of loving rather than with an agenda to get love or approval back.
Until you choose to learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings of pain, joy, worth and security, you will likely look for someone to take away your pain and make you feel safe, worthy and secure. The belief that someone other than yourself can do this for you, and that if they “love” you they will do this for you, is a major false belief that causes many relationship problems.
As long as you are making another responsible for your feelings, you are abandoning yourself, and it is the self-abandonment that is the cause of your pain and lack of self worth.
Everything changes when you decide that your primary intention is to be loving rather than to get love. Once you make this decision, then you will naturally go about learning what you need to learn to be loving to yourself and share your love with others. Until then, you will be trapped in trying to get someone else to give you the love you need, and this will never happen, because it can only come from you. Their love is wonderful when they offer it, but you are the only one with yourself 24/7, so you are the only one who can consistently bring yourself the love you need.
Why not begin today learning how to do that?
Margaret Paul, Ph.d.
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