Posts Tagged ‘Relationship’

Make Him Fall in Love – Go Beyond Friendship

Saturday, July 24th, 2010

Did you make him fall in love?  Not yet, you say?  Are you still working on it?  Have you fallen into a rut?  Are you looking for love, romance, commitment and marriage, and have only found friendship?  What can you do?  Follow our advice.  We have some time – honored tips.  These will work to make him fall in love; for sure.

You can make a guy fall in love with you and make him commit to you long term if you are the kind of woman he is looking for.  So you need to zero in on male psychology.  You need to find out, not what will attract men, but what will be the attraction that will win the love of this one man, Mr. Right, your soul mate?

2        Good dating advice will tell you that if you want to make him fall in love with you, first you have to find out who he is.  That does not mean name, address and marital status.  It means, what does he like?  What does he dislike?  What is he looking for in a woman?  Can you be those things?

So, here is what you do.  Talk to him.  Whenever you are together, ask him viewpoint questions.  Do not criticize the answers.  You are trying to find out who he is, not tell him who to be.

3        Suppose you find out he likes blondes?  Then what?  Can you be a blonde?  Can you lighten your hair a little to make yourself a little more attractive to him?  If he prefers black hair, could you dye your hair or at least color it a little?

A word of caution is in order here.  Do not do this unless you plan to continue it the rest of your life.  To change something about yourself just to trap him into a relationship and then let your true self emerge is fraud.  This is what people complain about when they say that women (or men) play games.  Be ready to make small changes, but make those changes permanent and be true to yourself.

If you really want to make him fall in love, try to like the things he likes.  Try to enjoy the things that he enjoys.  Pay attention to him and make him feel important.  But remember that this is your relationship, too.  Do not be a door mat; a door mat will be used but not loved.  So, do not lose your respect.  Try to find a balance between what he likes and what you like.

Remember that you are worth his time.  Be dignified and do not throw yourself at him.  Do not lose your sense of who you are.

Try this advice.   It really works.  Find out who he is and what he wants.  Make small changes in yourself to make yourself more attractive to him.  This can help you to make him fall in love with you.

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How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back – Does He Know How Much I Love Him?

Saturday, July 17th, 2010

If you have done anything to try to get your boyfriend back there should be little doubt that he knows that you still love and care about him. Of course, many people go overboard in their attempts to try to get their boyfriend back and ruin whatever chance they might have of ever getting him back through their attempts.

By constantly trying to make contact with their ex they actually wind up pushing him away instead of showing their love and devotion for their partner. Daily emails, telephone calls and text messages can border on harassment and typically push an ex away instead of accomplishing their intended goal of getting him back.

Many women might try to defend their actions by saying that without these attempts to work through problems or resolve issues their boyfriend might not know that he is still loved and that the want to work on the relationship. Unfortunately, this view is not really based in reality and most of these women wind up wishing that they had waited until the dust settled from the breakup before attempting to reconnect with their ex.

While emotions are still running high it is easy to fall into this trap. It is easy to become scared that you will never get him back or that he will wind up falling in love with someone else. In all honestly though, by pushing you stand a better chance of pushing him into the arms of another woman who respects him and is a lot more fun than you might be right now. This is key and something that you should try to see from his point of view. How excited would you be to talk to him if you had broken up with him and all he wanted to do was talk about all the problems in your relationship. People tend to be more receptive to other people who are happy, upbeat, positive and fun. Be that person!

Respect his boundaries and respect him as a human being and the man that you love and you might find that the task of repairing your relationship and getting back together with your man is a whole lot easier than you thought. Discussions about your relationship have their time and place. The wise woman knows when her man might be more agreeable and knows how to communicate with a man to get him to see things from her point of view. Trying to MAKE him see your side and agree to get back together rarely works.

So, if you worry that he doesn’t know that you love him try taking a look at your actions. Are you using this as an excuse to continue to contact your boyfriend and make him agree to get back together? Allow the dust to settle a little bit and create some rapport with your ex so you can gently and lovingly help him to see not only that you love him but that your relationship deserves a second chance.

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What causes a woman to get “TRAPPED BY LOVE” in a relationship…?

Saturday, July 17th, 2010

that they are no longer thinking logically or can not leave their partner (besides FEAR)?

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So why do I love my boyfriend but feel trapped in the relationship?

Wednesday, July 14th, 2010

Like it’s prison and I’m in my own little cell where I can’t go out, can’t have friends, or do anything without letting him know what I’m doing. So why do I stay in this situation when it’s really just tiresome and depressing. How can I get over this so called love and let the time wasted go just let it go? And how can I love someone who makes me sad and feel trapped?

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Yes another love question -So I’m 16 and this time last year I was having a conversation with my mom telling

Friday, April 30th, 2010

her high school relationships are so overrated and the teens in the realtionships get too into it and think they love the other and such. I mean really you have your whole life ahead of you and you want to find your life long partner in high school?! HA! Well a month later I got a boyfriend big whoop I though just someone to call mine do things with no biggie.. Well here we are 11 months and I take back everything I said.. Or I dont..My relationship has gone steadily slow and it was on our 10months ann. He told me he loved me and it took me a couple weeks to say it back. And I think I actually meant it and I feel so stupid for doing exactly what I was agaist just last year. Sometimes my boyfriend and I talk about marriage and kids but also keep in mind alot can change with time, but I truely think we can make it. Have I just fallen into the teen love trap or could this be it. I’m sure I have the right perspective of life and I know whats out there but I think Im content with what I got

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Internet Love.. is it a trap for the vulnerable?

Friday, March 12th, 2010

Headlines in Australia show that a 31 year old woman who had been webcaming with a 16 year old now 17, have met and are now declaring their love eachother. She has left behind in America a 3 year old child to be with him. 3 questions….. Is this woman delusional?, Is she almost a child moles*er?, Do you think that he really thinks a relationship could work or does he think its just Christmas ? I would like to know where is his parents and how is his school reports?

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Are You Addicted to Bad Relationships?

Monday, March 8th, 2010

Are you Addicted to Bad Relationships?

 
Do you often find that you involve yourself in relationships that disappoint you? Are you not getting what you need and desire from the people you choose to date? Does there always seem to be something missing? If you answered yes to one or all of those questions, you could very well be addicted to disappointing and bad relationships, setting yourself up for failure without even knowing it. There are ways you can determine whether you are addicted or not, and ways you can break the addiction and start getting what you have always wanted from a relationship.

Before we cover the symptoms of addiction, it is important that we cover the dangers of staying in a bad relationship. Since bad relationships lack what one or both partners’ need, stress becomes a regular part of your life, as well a gradual lowering of your self-esteem, which will make you unable to focus on your career and personal life with the concentration and care needed, in order for you to be happy. The constant stress will produce chemical changes in your body that drain your energy and make you more eligible for physical illnesses. Physical abuse in a relationship is obvious to cause a lot of physical harm, along with great psychological damage, but in spite of these facts, many people still choose to proceed with such relationships, finding themselves trapped and incapable of leaving. They find themselves depressed, on a search for some relief and unfortunately becoming depressed and possibly turning to drugs and alcohol.
 
So what are the symptoms of this addiction? Ignoring the truth would be one. If you truly know that the relationship you are in is making you unhappy but make no effort to exit from it, then you are in denial and are holding yourself hostage in a situation you do not have to be in. Making excuses for your partner’s disappointing and bad behavior will keep you trapped and is another huge symptom of bad relationship addiction, especially if the excuses you produce do not back up the facts and are unrealistic. If you do finally build up the courage to confront your partner to leave him or her but are overcome with fear and therefore back off from the confrontation, you are a high and sure victim of addiction because no matter what you attempt, you find yourself always giving in and holding on to what you know is bad for you. Suffering from both physical and mental discomfort once broken up, unless you get back together, is yet another symptom of addiction and should not be denied or ignored.

What causes addiction to bad relationships? There are several levels and everyone’s addiction is different and varies. One common reason is the feeling and belief that if you end the relationship, you will never find anyone else who could possibly be interested in you or love you. You grow so attached to your partner that you forgot your life before him or her, making you feel fearful of being on your own and taking care of yourself. Fear of criticism is another reason many people remain in bad relationships. They are afraid of what people will say, believing that ending a relationship means that they are a failure and being alone is unacceptable and terrifying. Other reasons may be financial support that you are receiving from a partner, making you feel that you should tolerate bad behavior from your lover, since they are supporting you. Having a child together can also blind you or cause you to deny a bad relationship, making you feel guilty for leaving your child’s mother or father. On a deeper level, you could be addicted to disappointing and bad relationships due to your upbringing or experiences as a child yourself. Perhaps you were not nurtured or loved enough and you now think it is normal to be neglected from love, care and understanding.

What should you do and how can you break a bad relationship addiction? Since this addiction is difficult and basically impossible for you to end on your own, counseling would be the best assistance for you. Find a counselor or service in which experts provide their services through, and take that first step in accepting the fact that you have an addiction and that you need and want help to conquer it. Start being a best friend to yourself and open the door to all the feelings you have kept locked up for so long. Stay focused and encourage yourself frequently by setting a goal, and picturing yourself away from all the disappointment and closer to all the happiness and good health you need, desire and deserve as a person. Never give up and know that you are not alone. There are people who can help you, know how to help and will help you. Mainly, keep in mind that there will always be a person who will be by your side and never leave you, always giving you the strength, love and support you need… and that person is YOU.

 

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Get Your Husband Back in Love With You – Advice For Wives

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

For many marriages the honeymoon phase doesn’t last. Being married to a man who says he’s no longer in love with you is emotionally devastating. You obviously can give up on the relationship and seek a divorce but that’s just not the right choice for every woman. There are specific things you can do to get your husband back in love with you if you are determined to save the relationship and keep your family together.

Attitude is everything when you want to get your husband back in love with you. When a couple has been married for some time it’s easy to focus on the shortcomings of your partner. Many women fall into this trap and this is what leads to them nagging their husband incessantly. If you do this your husband’s feelings for you are bound to change overtime. He’ll start to resent you and feel that you just don’t appreciate him. If you want to rebuild the relationship you have to stop this behavior right now. Instead of thinking about and commenting on the things about him that aren’t appealing to you, focus on the things you love about him. He’ll start to notice your positive attitude and it will make him see and feel that you appreciate him more.

Another thing you must do if you want to get your husband back is to make him your priority again. Think back to early in your relationship and how you viewed his place in your life. You need to recreate that so he feels how important he truly is to you. This can be a bit challenging for women who have children, but you must make it happen. You can do it by planning alone time for just you and your spouse. Enlist the help of family members or friends. Many women find it helpful to trade babysitting services with other families so they both can have some date nights each month with their respective husbands. Your goal is to recapture the romance with your husband so he can fall right back in love with you, the way he did when you two first started dating.

Gillian Reynolds

Are you tired of living in a relationship in which you feel neglected? Many married women find themselves feeling alone and rejected by their husbands. If you feel taken for granted, there?s a way to change that now. To learn more about how to transform your marriage so your husband loves and adores you more than he ever has before, visit this helpful site.

Don?t spend another day wishing your marriage was different. If you want your husband to treat you differently, make it happen. You can have the deeply connected, fulfilling relationship you?ve always wanted. Experience what it feels like to have a husband who will do anything and everything for you.

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Get the Man You Want to Fall in Love With You – Helpful Tips For Women

Friday, February 5th, 2010

Is it possible to get the man you want to fall in love with you? Many women would be very surprised to learn that it is indeed possible. You actually hold a good deal of control when it comes to whether or not a man will fall head over heels for you. The things you say and do have an enormous impact on the feelings of the man you adore. With a little insight any woman can capture the heart of a man forever.

In order to get the man you want to fall in love with you, you need to be yourself, at all times. This may seem obvious but most women don’t do it. We get ourselves all worked up when we are spending time with a man we are falling for and before we know it, we’re putting on an act. He doesn’t want you to be perfect. In fact, if a man believes that you’re being disingenuous or that you’re pretending to be something you’re not, his interest is going to cool completely, very quickly. Let him see that you accept yourself, imperfections and all and he will too.

Giving him his freedom is another way to get the man you want to fall in love with you. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of becoming overly possessive when we first start feelings the stirrings of love for a man. You have to resist the temptation to do this at all costs though. The more room a woman gives a man in the early stages of their relationship, the more he’ll want her. Let him go off and do his own thing while you do the same. Before you know it, he’ll be craving to spend more and more time with you.

Gillian Reynolds

Specific things you say and do can make a man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you. For more insightful tips about understanding men including a way to get him to fall deeply in love with you, visit this informative site!

You don?t have to leave love to fate or chance. If you are tired of waiting for him to fall hopelessly in love, there are things you can do to make it happen now. Find out right now what you need to do to capture his heart forever.

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Getting Love, Being Loving

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010

Take a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love:

* Is it most important to you to get someone to love you – to get love?

* Is it more important to you to be a loving person – to give love to yourself and others?

At any moment, you have one of these two intentions, and which you choose determines your experience of love.

GETTING LOVE

Most people move into relationships to be loved, rather than to be loving. Since most people were not loved as children and their parents did not role model loving themselves, they believe that it is getting love that will make them feel the best feelings – the best about themselves.

They go about looking for someone who they feel really sees and values them rather than learning how to see and value themselves. Not valuing themselves, they believe that the only way they will feel worthy and lovable is when someone they value loves them.

The problem is that, since we come together at our common level of woundedness, the partner they pick is also looking to get love. At the beginning, they each give the other what they believe the other wants in order to get the love they are seeking. Since both are in the relationship to get love, both want control over getting that love. Eventually, both feel very disappointed that their control tactics – giving gifts, giving themselves up, giving compliments, acting superior, getting judgmental, being demanding or angry, and so on – don’t work. They either decide they chose the wrong partner and move on, or they try harder to control – convincing, explaining, debating, arguing, talking things out, and so.

But as long as they are not first giving love to themselves, they will continue to be disappointed and feel unloved.

BEING LOVING

When you learn how to take responsibility for loving yourself – for defining your own worth, taking loving care of yourself, and filling yourself with love – then you seek a relationship in order to share your love with another. You see relationships as learning opportunities to further develop your ability to love yourself and others. Relationships become opportunities to grow, play, share and love, rather than to get love, security and validation.

When your intent is to be loving, you don’t see relationships as having to meet your needs. Love, real love, doesn’t need anything from the other person. Real love is giving caring, compassion, and understanding for the joy of loving rather than with an agenda to get love or approval back.

Until you choose to learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings of pain, joy, worth and security, you will likely look for someone to take away your pain and make you feel safe, worthy and secure. The belief that someone other than yourself can do this for you, and that if they “love” you they will do this for you, is a major false belief that causes many relationship problems.

As long as you are making another responsible for your feelings, you are abandoning yourself, and it is the self-abandonment that is the cause of your pain and lack of self worth.

Everything changes when you decide that your primary intention is to be loving rather than to get love. Once you make this decision, then you will naturally go about learning what you need to learn to be loving to yourself and share your love with others. Until then, you will be trapped in trying to get someone else to give you the love you need, and this will never happen, because it can only come from you. Their love is wonderful when they offer it, but you are the only one with yourself 24/7, so you are the only one who can consistently bring yourself the love you need.

Why not begin today learning how to do that?

Margaret Paul, Ph.d.

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